Decision fatigue.
That’s what the seller felt after 15 hours of conversations in a single week. She ended up canceling the last six calls.
Research on decision fatigue shows that the quality of our decisions deteriorates the more choices we make – cognitive resources deplete, the brain starts looking for shortcuts, and judgment slips. It doesn’t matter how experienced or intelligent the decision-maker is. Volume alone does it.
She was exhausted in a way that’s hard to explain unless you’ve sat across from that many people, each one presenting their best version of themselves, each one trying to convince you they’re the right person to take over something you spent years building.
I’ve brokered a lot of deals. I’ve never watched a seller go through anything quite like that.
The Part Nobody Warns You About
Most sellers spend months, sometimes years, thinking about the number.
What’s the business worth?
What’s a fair multiple?
What will I net after taxes and fees?
Those are the right questions to ask, and they matter enormously. But they’re also the questions that get answered relatively quickly once you go to market with a well-packaged deal.
What nobody warns you about is everything that comes after the offers arrive.
This seller had 26 of them. From qualified, capitalized, serious buyers. The lender holding her current loan had already told me every significant buyer in the stack was financeable. The market had done its job. She knew roughly what the business was worth. And she still had to make one of the hardest decisions of her professional life.
Because here’s what changes when the offers come in: the question stops being about the business and starts being about you.
About your judgment. About whether you can read people well enough, under pressure, with real stakes, to choose the right one.
That’s a different skill than building a business. And most sellers have never had to use it before.
What 15 Hours of Calls Actually Reveals
She powered through every conversation. Fifteen hours with potential buyers, each one an hour of listening, evaluating, trying to get a real sense of who this person was beyond their LOI and their background deck.
After enough of those conversations, patterns start to emerge.
You can feel the difference between someone who read the package carefully and someone who skimmed it.
You can tell when a buyer is excited about the business specifically versus excited about buying a business in general. Those aren’t the same thing, and the gap between them matters more than most buyers realize.
What she was listening for, even if she didn’t have the language for it yet, was specificity.
The buyer who could tell her exactly which growth opportunity they planned to tackle first, and why, and what they’d need to execute it, was a fundamentally different candidate than the one who talked about their “vision” in broad strokes. Sellers who have built real operational businesses have a finely tuned detector for vagueness. They’ve hired enough people to know that confident generalities often mask a lack of preparation.
By the time she got through 15 hours of calls, she had a gut read on 14 genuinely strong candidates. That’s when the real work began.
When Price Becomes Noise
I got on the phone with her and told her something that surprises most sellers when they hear it: don’t worry about the offer amounts.
Twenty-six offers from qualified buyers tells you everything you need to know about what a business is worth. The market had already done that work. Obsessing over who came in a few percentage points higher at that point was noise.
So she built a rubric. Four factors, each scored one to five.
- Commitment to buying a business
- Ability to succeed post-transaction
- Offer quality
- Financing certainty
When she showed it to me, I told her to cross out the last two. The financing was covered. The price was established. Everything that was left was about fit.
That’s a disorienting realization for most sellers. We spend so much energy preparing financially for an exit that when the financial variables fall away, it can feel like the ground has shifted. What you’re left with is a fundamentally human decision, and human decisions are harder to optimize than financial ones.
What She Was Actually Choosing
For this seller, it came down to two things.
- She wanted someone who was committed to her business specifically, not just to the idea of owning a business.
- And she wanted someone who had a realistic shot at succeeding after close.
She understood something that many sellers only realize in retrospect: her legacy with this company wouldn’t be defined only by what she built. It would be defined by what happened after she left.
That instinct is well-founded. Harvard Business Review has documented that the M&A failure rate sits between 70% and 90%, meaning the majority of acquisitions fail to deliver the value buyers expected.
For a seller who has built something real, that data isn’t abstract. It’s a reason to think very carefully about who gets the keys.
So she made her choice carefully, based on who she believed would steward what she’d built.
What the Best Sellers Have in Common
According to the Exit Planning Institute’s 2025 State of Owner Readiness Report, 70-80% of privately held businesses listed for sale never complete a transaction. They fail for a number of reasons but one is because the seller wasn’t prepared – financially, operationally, or psychologically – for what the process actually demands.
The sellers who get this right share a few things in common.
- They’ve thought seriously about who their ideal successor looks like
- They’ve built operational independence into the business
- And they understand that the final conversation with a buyer tells you more about how they’ll operate the business than anything in their LOI
What she did – the rubric, the deliberate filtering, the willingness to set price aside once the market had established value – is something every seller should think through before they ever get to market. Because by the time you have 26 offers in your inbox, you’re already behind on that thinking. The sellers who navigate it best start with the end in mind, not just the number.
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